El Flist

[soulstar]

So, I'm back online after aaaaaaaaaages. And my friends-list is just horribly daunting, volume-wise. I mean, I'm not even going to try to catch up, but after a couple of days of trying, I find I can't *keep* up with it as it is. Bah. Which means I've decided to cut it down to a more managable size. So, sorry if I offend or upset anyone, but it's either that or reading only a small filter of LJs. Wouldn't you rather know if I've buggered off and stopped reading yours? But just in case, here is a poll:

[Poll #630684]

Meh, I don't really want to do this. But I do need to - it's either chop the flist, or hide under the desk and never come out again. Erm. Yes.

Comments

[kimberly-a.livejournal.com]

I didn't mark any of the options, because what I would really say is this: If you aren't reading my journal, then take me off your list. I won't be upset. I figure it's all about whether you're reading, not whether you like people or not. Though it's called a "friends list," I think of it as a "reading list." I write a lot ... if you can't keep up I'll understand and won't take it to mean that you don't like me or whatever. I'll still keep reading your journal, though. :-)

[seeksadventure.livejournal.com]

Yes, I agree with this, and with what you said. I'd rather know if someone wasn't reading me than be filtered off.

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

Thanks for the input! *hugs*

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

Well, I'm not at all likely to take you of my list anyway - your journal is one that I have on the small reading list that I was (mostly) keeping up with. :-)

I think of it mainly as a reading list as well, but maybe what I didn't explain well was that I didn't want to exclude anyone who was already on the flist from reading my friends-only entries if they still wanted to. That's the dilemma!

[kimberly-a.livejournal.com]

I go through the same process with my journal periodically. I like to pare down my friends list, but I don't want to get rid of anyone who still wants to read my friends-locked entries. Unfortunately, every time I do this, everyone says they want to stay on my list, even though I know a lot of them aren't reading. It's frustrating. I don't know if they're trying not to hurt my feelings or what.

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

It's difficult, isn't it? Even if you take people off of the Default View, it still feels like you have a massive list when you look at the profile page. *sigh*

[shimmiwyld.livejournal.com]

I agree with kimberly_a. If you don't/can't read my LJ (I realise I babble a lot anyways), then defriend me - it's cool. It doesn't mean we're going on a war-path or anything, just that it'll be easier for you to keep up with the people who are actually updating you with stuff you need/want to know. :)

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

Thanks, sweetie.

[omega-h.livejournal.com]

I agree with the people above. :)

[amezri.livejournal.com]

I didn't like either of the options, so I'm leaving a comment :) Please feel free to defriend me if you're not reading my journal anymore, it's all right, I understand. In anycase, I'm glad to see you back online and have missed you!

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

I've missed you too - I know I never comment, but I do read your journal. :-)

[astaria51.livejournal.com]

I picked the Default View option because, well: you do what you need to, please. I'd like to still be able to read and comment on your journal, though, which is why I picked that option.

Unless, of course, you'd like me NOT to be able to, in which case, defriend away. ;D

In any case, I really really hope that things get better for you soonish. *hugs* Life's been a bit of a bastard to you lately, it seems like.

<3,
Faye

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

Yes, that was something I was worried about: people still wanting to read my flocked entries and stuff. Not that I'm going to stop reading you anyway :-)

And *HUGS* - thank you, sweetie. You know, things are loads better now. It's taken another couple of months, but it all seems to be looking up. Yay!

[urbanfae.livejournal.com]

Didn't care for the options, so I'm commenting.

I'd prefer not to be defriended, since my journal is basically friends only, and I hardly have time for AIM atm, so this is about my only form of online communication for now.

But I understand if you have to. *hugs*

[soulstar.livejournal.com]

[Belated comment answering]

Yeah, that was one of the things that bugs me about having to do a flist cull. I'm hardly on AIM either, and completely useless at email answering, so LJ is pretty much it for me as well!

*hugs*

[buhfly.livejournal.com]

I won't hate you if you defriend me. *snuggle* Daunting flists are hard.

[thewatch.livejournal.com]

It's great to see you back online again, hope to catch up with you properly soon!